Profile: RealistIdealist

Are you ready to read? OK, some factual stuff about me:

I was born in England but have lived in Australia for about 20 years, Asia for 5 years, and have lived in or visited about 20 countries.

I studied engineering, computing and electronics and have worked for most of my life with computers, usually as a contractor or consultant, designing and developing systems and software. Right now I'm trying to work on my own software projects.

People often say I'm kind, friendly and polite. I'm also extremely honest, sincere, loyal, thoughtful, direct and ethical. I'm a bit of a deep thinker, a little intellectual, philosophical, borderline academic (but I never liked formal education much, so my qualifications don't reflect my abilities). I'm both idealistic and practical, which seems to give me an unusual outlook on life. I try to make myself see the truth, even if it's difficult to face. I'll stand up for what I think is right, for myself, and for others, even if I put myself at risk. I try to say what I mean. If I say something, you can believe it. I won't use nice words just to flatter. I won't lie to you or deceive you.

Apart from all the usual things such as movies, music, travel etc, I've had many interests over time. For example, I like science, technology, health, fitness, nature, outdoor activities such as hiking, skiing, ice & roller skating, scuba-diving, swimming, wind-surfing etc, good tea and coffee, reading, many more. I like red wine and English (bitter) beer but I drink little and rarely. I try to look after my body and have exercised throughout my life to try to stay fit. Right now I'm 172cm and about 75kg.

I really hate smoking, superstition, including religion, astrology, new-age beliefs and all the rest (they are lies and nonsense, teach people to be stupid and are harmful to us all). I also hate dishonesty, deceit, selfishness, greed, arrogance, irresponsible / irrational / anti-social behaviour and rudeness. I think gambling and drugs are stupid and find most spectator sports boring. I'd rather do things myself than watch other people do them.

I'm not here looking for friends or casual relationships or to learn a language. I just hope I might meet Ms Right. She is not easy to find, I've given up a lot to search for her and recently that's made my life very hard. I would do a lot to be with the right person.

I've never been married, mainly because it's very difficult to find someone I can really talk to. That's the most important thing for me. In Asia it's easy to make friends and some aspects of the culture make it easier to find the right kind of person. Unfortunately other things make it much harder.

However I know myself well, I can be very determined, and I have more than enough strength to keep my promises and honour my commitments. I think that language, culture and distance make it difficult to start and continue a relationship, but "difficult" is not "impossible", so to me these are temporary problems.

I know what I've written here is very factual. It's because I'm a private person and don't want to say too much in such a public place. But I know this means some people will get the wrong impression of me. So I'll say this:

If you are the right person for me, and if you are always honest and do not treat me badly, I'll never leave you, I'll love you as much as any person can, I'll walk at your side, through bad as well as good, for the rest of my life.

Yes, I know, words mean nothing. I know many men will say nice things just to get what they want (and you know what that is). But I despise that type of person and I am absolutely not like that. I try to say what I mean and I don't make promises unless I really believe I can keep them. What I say is true. I'm sincere. I mean it. I can promise. It's what I want.

The picture with the blue t-shirt, jeans, boats and railings is recent, (July 2016). The others are older (2009-2013), but I don't have any better ones at the moment.